Самосострадание. О силе сочувствия и доброты к себе [заметки]

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Обзор этой работы: Neff, “Self-Compassion,” in Handbook of Individual Differences in Social Behavior, ed. Mark R. Leary and Rick H. Hoyle (New York: Guilford Press, 2009), 561–573.

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Kristin Neff, “Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion,” Self and Identity 2 (2003): 223–250.

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Стервелла де Виль — злая, жестокая и эгоистичная злодейка, героиня повести Доди Смита «101 далматинец» и одноименного анимационного фильма. Мистер Хайд — суперзлодей, альтер эго доктора Джекилла, героя повести Роберта Льюиса Стивенсона «Странная история доктора Джекилла и мистера Хайда». Прим. ред.

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Kristin Neff, “Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion,” Self and Identity 2 (2003): 223–250.

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Kristin Neff, “Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself,” Self and Identity 2 (2003): 85–102.

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Kristin D. Neff and Pittman McGehee, “Self-Compassion and Psychological Resilience Among Adolescents and Young Adults,” Self and Identity 9 (2010): 225–240.

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Отличный сайт по окситоцину — http://www.oxytocin.org.

Helen Rockliff et al., “Effects of Intranasal Oxytocin on ‘Compassion Focused Imagery’ ” (представлена к публикации).

Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Wendy A. Birmingham, and Kathleen C. Light, “The Influence of a ‘Warm Touch’ Support Enhancement Intervention Among Married Couples on Ambulatory Blood Pressure, Oxytocin, Alpha Amylase, and Cortisol,” Psychosomatic Medicine 70 (2008): 976–985.

Dacher Keltner, “The Compassionate Instinct,” The Greater Good 1 (2004): 6–9.

Paul Gilbert, “Compassion and Cruelty: A Biopsychosocial Approach,” in Compassion: Conceptualisations, Research and Use in Psychotherapy, ed. Paul Gilbert (London: Routledge, 2005), 9–74.

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«Ты не можешь всегда получать то, что хочешь» (You Can’t Always Get What You Want) — название песни группы The Rolling Stones. Прим. пер.

Kristin Neff, “Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion,” Self and Identity 2 (2003): 223–250.

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Информация есть на сайте http://www.challengeday.org. Также можно посмотреть видеозапись описанного упражнения: наберите «The Teen Files — Part 2: Lines That Divide Us» в строке поиска на http://www.youtube.com.

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Видеоролик Лайама Салливана, о котором идет речь, называется «Let Me Borrow That Top» («Дай поносить эту майку»), его можно найти по названию на http://www.youtube.com.

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Kristin D. Neff, Stephanie S. Rude, and Kristin L. Kirkpatrick, “An Examination of Self-Compassion in Relation to Positive Psychological Functioning and Personality Traits,” Journal of Research in Personality 41 (2007): 908–916.

Kristin D. Neff, “Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion,” Self and Identity 2 (2003): 223–250.

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В действительности эта история произошла в детстве с Л. Н. Толстым, а командовал его старший брат Николай. В своих воспоминаниях Толстой пишет: «Помню, как я становился в угол и старался, но никак не мог не думать о белом медведе». Прим. пер.

Kristin D. Neff, “Development and Validation.”

Полианна — героиня одноименного романа Элинор Портер. В любых, даже самых, казалось бы, сложных и неприятных ситуациях и поступках Полианна умела находить хорошее. Прим. ред.

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Очевидно, эта цитата не из Библии. Известна восточная притча о царе и подаренном ему кольце с такой надписью. Прим. пер.

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Более подробную информацию о программах Стивена Стосны, посвященных управлению гневом, можно найти на сайте www.compassionpower.com.

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Dana Crowley Jack, Silencing the Self: Women and Depression (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1991).

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Jennifer Crocker and Amy Canevello, “Creating and Undermining Social Support in Communal Relationships: The Role of Compassionate and Self-Image Goals,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 95 (2008): 555–575.

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Neff, Yarnell, and Pommier, The Relationship Between Self-Compassion and Other-Focused Concern.

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Дэн Куэйл — вице-президент США с 1989 по 1993 г. Известен своими нелепыми высказываниями вроде: «Настало время человечеству войти в Солнечную систему». Прим. пер.

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Charles R. Figley, Compassion Fatigue: Coping with Secondary Traumatic Stress Disorder in Those Who Treat the Traumatized (Philadelphia: Brunner/Mazel, 1995).

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Beth H. Stamm, “Work-Related Secondary Traumatic Stress,” PTSD Research Quarterly 19 (1997): 49–64.

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David F. Wee and Diane Myers, “Stress Responses of Mental Health Workers Following Disaster: The Oklahoma City Bombing,” in Treating Compassion Fatigue, ed. Charles R. Figley (New York: Brunner-Routledge, 2002): 57–84.

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Террористическая акция, совершенная в Оклахома-Сити 19 апреля 1995 года ультраправыми экстремистами. Прим. пер.

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Shauna L. Shapiro et al., “Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction for Health Care Professionals: Results from a Randomized Trial,” International Journal of Stress Management 12 (2005): 164–176.

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Ron Ringenbach, “A Comparison between Counselors Who Practice Meditation and Those Who Do Not on Compassion Fatigue, Compassion Satisfaction, Burnout, and Self-Compassion,” Dissertation Abstracts International (2009) AAT 3361751.

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Figley, Compassion Fatigue.

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Песня «Let It Be» («Пусть будет как будет») из одноименного альбома вышла в формате сингла в 1970 году, накануне того, как Маккартни объявил, что покидает группу. Прим. ред.

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Neff, Yarnell, and Pommier, The Relationship Between Self-Compassion and Other-Focused Concern.

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Медитация с ведущим в формате MP3 есть на сайте www.self-compassion.org. Прим. авт.

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Richie Davidson, “Changing the Brain by Transforming the Mind. The Impact of Compassion Training on the Neural Systems of Emotion (paper presented at the Mind and Life Institute Conference, Investigating the Mind, Emory University, Atlanta, GA, October 2007).

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Джозеф Чилтон Пирс — американский психолог. Док Лью Чилдре — американский писатель, автор методики лечения стресса музыкой из соответствующих музыкальных композиций. Книга на русском языке не издана. Оригинальное издание Childre, D. L. Teaching Children to Love. Planetary Publications, 1997. Прим. ред.

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Де Врис, П. (1910–1993 гг.) — американский писатель-сатирик. Не путать с одноименным персонажем из романа «Дюна» Фрэнка Герберта. Прим. пер.

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Мать родила Джека Николсона в 17 лет, отец неизвестен. Его воспитывали как своего сына бабушка и дедушка, и он всегда считал мать старшей сестрой. Правду он узнал уже после ее смерти, ему тогда было почти сорок лет. Прим. пер.

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Kristin D. Neff and Pittman McGehee, “Self-Compassion and Psychological Resilience Among Adolescents and Young Adults,” Self and Identity 9 (2010): 225–240.

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Rebecca Coleman, Mindful Awareness Parenting (MAP™) Instructor Manual (Australia: Wiseheart Consulting & Publishing, 2009).

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В позитивном воспитании тайм-ин противопоставляется тайм-ауту, то есть наказанию ребенка исключением его из обычного хода дел: «Стань в угол, отправляйся в свою комнату, я не буду с тобой разговаривать, пока…» и т. п. Прим. пер.

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Это упражнение взято из протокола МАР доктора Ребекки Коулман (более подробную информацию см. на сайте www.maplinc.com.au). Прим. авт.

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Daniel K. Lapsley et al., “Separation-Individuation and the ‘New Look’ at the Imaginary Audience and Personal Fable: A Test of an Integrative Model,” Journal of Adolescent Research 4 (1989): 483–505.

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Neff and McGehee, “Self-Compassion and Psychological Resilience.”

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На русском языке изданы несколько книг Джона Готтмана, в том числе «7 принципов счастливого брака», «Испытание ребенком» и др. Прим. пер.

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John Gottman, The Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy (New York: Norton Press, 1999).

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Gottman et al., “Predicting Marital Happiness and Stability from Newly Wed Interactions,” Journal of Marriage and the Family 60 (1998): 5–22.

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Kristin D. Neff and S. Natasha Beretvas, The Role of Self-Compassion in Healthy Relationship Interactions (submitted for publication).

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Steven R. H. Beach et al., “Self-Evaluation Maintenance in Marriage: Toward a Performance Ecology of the Marital Relationship,” Journal of Family Psychology 10 (1996): 379–396.

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W. Keith Campbell, Craig A. Foster, and Eli J. Finkel, “Does Self-Love Lead to Love for Others? A Story of Narcissistic Game Playing,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 83 (2002): 340–354.

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Левин, Д., Килборн, Дж. Сексуальные, но еще не взрослые. М.: Ломоносов, 2010. Прим. пер.

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Brian A. Primack et al., “Degrading and Nondegrading Sex in Popular Music: A Content Analysis,” Public Health Reports 123 (2008): 593–600.

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Ying Yang Twins — американский хип-хоп-дуэт, образован в 1996 г. Прим. ред.

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Laura S. Stepp, Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, and Lose at Both (New York: Riverhead Books, 2007).

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Peter S. Bearman and Hannah Bruckner, “Promising the Future: Virginity Pledges and First Intercourse,” American Journal of Sociology 106 (2001): 859–912.

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Janet E. Rosenbaum, “Patient Teenagers? A Comparison of the Sexual Behavior of Virginity Pledgers and Matched Nonpledgers,” Pediatrics 123 (2009): 110–120.

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R. Gina Silverstein and Willoughby B. Britton, “Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Body: The Role of Mindfulness in the Treatment of Female Sexual Dysfunction” (poster presented at the Sixth World Congress of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, Boston, MA, June 2010).

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Джебран, Дж. Х. Пророк. М.: София, 2013. Прим. ред.

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Richard S. Lazarus, Emotion and Adaptation (New York: Oxford University Press, 1991).

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Хелен Келлер (1880–1968) — американская писательница и активистка, которая в детстве лишилась и слуха, и зрения, но смогла получить степень бакалавра. Прим. пер.

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Barbara L. Fredrickson, “The Role of Positive Emotions in Positive Psychology: The Broaden-and-Build Theory of Positive Emotions,” American Psychologist 56 (2001): 218–226.

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Fredrickson et al., “Open Hearts Build Lives: Positive Emotions, Induced Through Meditation, Build Consequential Personal Resources,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 95 (2008): 1045–1062.

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Antoine Lutz et al., “Long-Term Meditators Self-Induce High-Amplitude Gamma Synchrony During Mental Practice,” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, USA 101 (2004): 16369–16373.

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Martin E. Seligman and Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi, “Positive Psychology: An Introduction,” American Psychologist 55 (2000): 5–14.

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Kristin D. Neff, Kasom Pisitsungkagarn, and Ya Ping Hseih, “Self-Compassion and Self-Construal in the United States, Thailand, and Taiwan,” Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology 39 (2008): 267–285.

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Дорис Дэй (1922–2019) — американская актриса и певица, героини которой отличались восторженностью, целомудрием и бесконечным оптимизмом. Прим. пер.

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«Выпускник» (1967 г.) — фильм режиссера Майка Николса с молодым Дастином Хоффманом в главной роли — входит в список 100 лучших американских фильмов за 100 лет. Актриса Энн Бэнкрофт, сыгравшая миссис Робинсон — даму, у которой роман с женихом ее дочери, — была номинирована на «Оскар» и получила премию BAFTA. Имя «миссис Робинсон» стало нарицательным. Прим. пер.

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Уильямсон, М. Любовь. Верните ее в свою жизнь. М.: АСТ, 2015. Прим. ред.

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Отсылка к одноименному роману Джозефа Хеллера, в котором показан логический парадокс, возникающий между взаимоисключающими правилами. Прим. ред.

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Джеймс, У. (1842–1910) — американский философ и психолог. Прим. ред.

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Любомирски, С. Психология счастья. Новый подход. СПб.: Питер, 2014 г. Прим. ред.

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David T. Lykken, Happiness: What Studies on Twins Show Us About Nature, Nurture, and the Happiness Set-Point (New York: Golden Books, 1999).

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Sonia Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want (New York: Penguin, 2008).

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Robert A. Emmons, Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier (New York: Houghton Mifflin, 2007).

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Robert A. Emmons and Michael E. McCullough, “Counting Blessings Versus Burdens: An Experimental Investigation of Gratitude and Subjective Well-Being in Daily Life,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 84 (2003): 377–389.

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Fred B. Bryant, “Savoring Beliefs Inventory (SBI): A Scale for Measuring Beliefs About Savoring,” Journal of Mental Health 12 (2003): 175–196.

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Fred B. Bryant and Joseph Veroff, Savoring: A New Model of Positive Experiences (Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum, 2007).